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Tomorrow will be difficult

Hi there,

I’m going to have a very hard time tomorrow saying goodbye to the children and my friends in Siem Reap.

This morning I reminded the kids that I had to leave on Saturday. Many of the children caught me off guard and raised their hand. They asked me “Why do yo have to leave”?”. They asked me “When will I be coming back”. They asked “Why would it be so many months before I came back to them.”. They asked if I would miss them. One girl was very quiet after class and hugged me the whole time.

Tonight, I told my classes at the School for Children of Poverty. I got the exact same response with the children asking me questions. Some of their questions were in Khmer and my assistant had to translate for me. A couple of the girls raised their hand and said “Teacher is Sung Ha” (handsome). They said, take us to Canada with you.

I am going to have a very hard day tomorrow.

Love Gerry

Update May 7

Hello,

I have been slower with my posts, since I’m very busy right now. I’m trying to do as much as possible, before I leave Cambodia.

I have to tell you that I”m going to be very sad to leave this place. I’m actually a little scared about being back at home. Things look different to me now. I have come to love Cambodia and its people. I’m going to be heartbroken to leave this place, while there is so much more that can be done. That said, I have to get back home and figure out how to best use some of the advantages I have in life to help those over here and in other places. I will be back in Cambodia very soon.

I plan on finishing my work with the Green Gecko project and the School for Children of Poverty. I will finish my travels by going back to Phnom Penh. I want to spend time at the dump and work with the mobile library that sets up at the dump for those children. I also want to say goodbye to the many brothers and sisters I have at CCH. That will be the hardest part of my journey. I was planning on spending time in Laos and Thailand. I have cancelled those plans, because Io don’t want to leave Cambodia until the last possible moment.

Please check the blog in the next few days. I have some good stories to tell you about the children and my friend that calls himself “Mr. Moon’”.

Thanks for your interest and the many e-mails.

Love Gerry

One of my “Favorite Students”

This is still one of my favorite students in my “Yellow Class” at Green Gecko. This is how I saw her last night.

Hello,

My student is the girl in yellow. The lady beside her is her mother. There is a baby sleeping under the blanket and his bottle is nearby. It is very sad for me. It’s one thing to look at these pictures. It’s another thing to know this girl and look in her eyes and have her hug you every morning and see her cry. There’s nothing else that I can say. It is a crazy world.

Love Gerry

May 3, 2007 - One of my “Favorite Students”

This is one of my “Favorite Students” in my yellow class at the Green Gecko.
This is my same “Favorite Student” at night.

Hello,

There is young girl is in my class at the Green Gecko. I really love to see her every day. She usually has a big smile. Some days she comes to class and is not interested in studying. She is just a normal teenager, but different.

At night, this young girl is out begging on the streets. I often run into her late in the evening. sometimes I walk over to a place where she usually works and check on her. She is usually with her mother and father near the pub street. Her mother and father (who has no leg) try to sell books on the street. The mother also carries around a tiny little baby and asks for money to fill the baby bottle with milk. My student holds the other younger brother and asks people for money.

When I meet the children on the streets, I usually get mixed reactions. Most give me a hug. Some appear to be embarrassed about what they are doing. Some try to lead me away from meeting their parents. This night, I got a hug from this girl. Her mom came to me trying to get money from me and was pointing to the baby sleeping on the wooden box stand. My little student look like she felt awkward with her mom trying to beg from me. I said”"no no… I’m her teacher”. I could quickly tell that it didn’t really matter, because she held the baby bottle right up in my face and asked for money. I think my student was embarrassed. I quickly said goodbye to her and told her I was excited to see her in class tomorrow. Can you imagine being in your early teens and having to deal with all this? How can you still manage to smile? How can you have the motivation to study in class? How can you have hope?

I’m torn about the Green Gecko kids. I’m not sure whether it is better to fully take them out of this environment or leave them in it and provide them with support. The children at CCH appear to be more well adjusted and thankful. Those children are completely removed from their situation. I’m not sure about the best way. I need to reflect on this more.

Regardless, my heart goes out to this young friend of mine. I hope that somehow she can get out of all this mess. Thank you to the Green Gecko that is giving these street children a chance to have a bit of a childhood and some hope for the future.

Her is this same girl from the classroom picture above, as she works in the evening. I took this picture around 1:00am in the morning. She was at Green Gecko first thing the next day. Amazing strength in a little package. Seeing these children at night, has been the hardest part.

Love Gerry

My “Little Sisters”

Hello,

I have to tell you about three young girls that I met at CCH. All the children at CCH are wonderful and none are more important than the others. Over my time at CCH, I had the chance to spend time with three teenage girls.

We became close as they told me there life stories. These three girls always wanted to study. They would hunt me down at CCH and say “Teacher. Teacher. We study?”. The girls would then pick a random book from the library and ask me to teach them. They would often choose books way above their level and just want me to start at page one. I had to relearn about elements and basic chemistry as I acted like I knew what I was talking about.

The girls started to call me their brother. They always asked about my family and often wanted to see their pictures. One of the girls pulled me aside one day. She was very shy and said that she wanted to ask me a question. She asked me if she could keep one picture of my family that I had brought with me on my trip. Of course I let her keep a picture of her choice and she proudly has it near her bed side.

I’ve received many beautiful e-mails from my little sisters. They are very nice and affectionate and not ruined by any form of self want. The thing that I’ve learned from these girls is that often people just need to know someone cares about them. It’s as though these young girls are reaching out to have some sort of family that they can trust and believe. They constantly tell me that they want to visit. Their biggest dream is to see and feel snow. I think of the many days that I get upset, because it is snowing. For this girls, it’s their dream.

These girls have few clothes and that’s about it. And yet, they are full of affection and aspirations to do better in life. And the most incredible part is that they want to do well in life, so they can help others. The girls tell me that they are “lucky”, because they can study and don’t have to be working at the dump. They are “lucky”. I have never heard them once talk about wanting money or a television or a gameboy or a CD player or a bike. I’m learning lots from my three “little sisters” and all the kids at CCH.

As a friend wrote to me:

“Some people come into our lives and move our souls to dance. They awaken us to understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom… They make our world more beautiful, … Leave footprints in our hearts, and we are never, ever the same”
Love Gerry

What have I been up to?

Hello,

I haven’t been updating the blog as often, because I’ve been very busy doing many things here in Siem Reap.

Every morning I arrive to many playful children at the Green Gecko project. We play with the kids for a couple hours, before classes begin. I teach a group of about 17 children in the “yellow room”. It is a difficult class. The kids are very different every day. I struggle when to discipline and when to leave them alone. I see many of these same children on the street selling of begging late into the night. We feed the children lunch.

I’ve been working with the Director of the School for poverty children. We got a nice donation box build for the school and decorated the box with pictures and a note. The box is set up at the school and visitors that come for a tour of the place are starting to leave donations to pay for operations. It’s been almost three weeks and we still can’t get a bank account. The Director needs an identity card. We have been told the card would be ready in three days… about four times now. We went to the bank the other day and convinced them to take a letter from the commune about his identify. Now we have to get the commune stamp on the letter, before we can open a simple bank account. Everything takes very long here. I hope we can get it set up this week.

I’ve been teaching two classes in the evenings to youth between the ages of around 6 years old to 15 years old. Some kids speak a few words of English and others speak full sentences. Some have books, some have no books. It’s very difficult to manage the class, but I’ve been able to get things done and have fun at the same time. I love my classes at this school and don’t want to leave. The children are so thankful. They call me “Teacher-gomplain (joker)” or “Teacher-saat (handsome)”or “Teacher-Lop Lop (crazy)”. They are wonderful. I am teaching them a few songs as well and the whole school know that we will be singing at one point in the class.

I usually leave those classes and grab something to eat. I can eat a stir fry dinner and have one beer for less than $2.00 US. I have a few friends here in Siem Reap. Sometimes I meet them foe some beer at night. We order a big picture of beer and appetizers for less than $2.00 US as well. Crazy.

I check my e-mails and respond to personal e-mails. I have been getting messages from many children and I try to write them all back right away. I plan my lesson for the next day. This often takes lots of time. It is difficult to get photocopies or even find lined paper here. I can’t get a three ring hole punch either. The pencils keep breaking and the pens work for about 5 minutes. It’s a challenge to pull together an interesting class and I often have to visit many places in order to get a simple lesson together. Right now, I want to borrow a CD player to teach a song I have here for the kids. I can’t find anyone that actually has one to lend me. The school definitely doesn’t have a cd player. They barely even have blank pieces of paper. It is a challenge, but exciting at the same time.

I usually walk around pub street and say hello to a few of the kids. I sometimes stop in at a favorite place of mine ans say hello to some friends. I take my motorbike home and sit under my fan to keep somewhat cool. I sleep and start over again the next day.

I have two more weeks before I return to Phnom Penh. I want to spend my last days working at the dump and with the CCH children. It is going to be the hardest way for me to leave, but also the most rewarding. I’m getting very sad about having to leave this place for a world that is so different back at home.

Love Gerry

The Sex Trade

Hello,

The other day day, we found out that a young girl that was missing from the centre started working for a karaoke bar (often a cover for a brothel). A friend of mine from the centre was able to find out where she was working. He took his motorbike down some country roads and brought her back to the centre. To get her out of the brothel, the Madam or pink has to be paid to clear the debts that the girl may accumulate.

The reality in Cambodia is very sad for the many young people. Most people I have met have no or little education. Even with an education, there are few jobs here expect if you work in the tourist industry. Those jobs often go to the people that had a good school and can speak English fluently. Those jobs are often given to people that have connections. Anyway, there are not many other options for employment here. Even if they find jobs, they often get paid less than $40 a month. I know some girls from a massage place that work from 10am to 12 midnight and get paid $40 a month.

Girls often have little options. Many of the young people I have met are the only money earners in their family. They often support their parents, grandparents and siblings that all live together in small shacks. Often, the girls leave home and work in brothels when there a few other choices for survival. They go somewhere away from their homeland and send the money back home to their families. The families know what is happening, but often just need the money and no one talks about it.

Brothel owners attract young girls by offering them a place to stay and food. They also offer to give them money right away as a loan. The loan is then paid back to the owner as the girl works off her debt. Often, the Madam or Pimp charge $30 to $50 from each man. The girls often only get paid about $10 to $15 per man. Many of the girls take on a few hundred dollars of debt at least. If you do the math, it takes lots of men to pay back that loan along with everything else. Many girls pawn their few possessions for more cash. AIDS is a big health hazard here in Cambodia. Many of the young girls taken in brothels end up with AIDS and live a short life.

My friend from our project went to the karaoke club and paid off this girl’s debt to the owner. She was taken back to the shelter for a place to stay, food, education and counselling. The next thing I hear is that there is an incident at the shelter. This girl’s “boyfriend” or “pimp”shows up at the shelter to get her back. He says she owes them money, although the debt was paid. There is no backup system here as the police often can’t be trusted and are corrupt. ‘Many organizations here that rescue girls from the brothels have armed guards at their doors. this is to protect the girls from the brothel owners that may come with guns to force them back to the trade.

It’s great that all these organizations are trying to save these girls from these places. The sad reality is that without future opportunities for them, most will just end up going back to the trade. After all, where else can they make that kind of money without an education in a country that is full of corruption. And besides, someone has to take care of their family. Can you blame them? It’s a sad reality for many here.

This girl, that was taken out of the karaoke club was 17 years old. What a shame for this precious life. Thank you to the good people that give their lives to give some hope to others.

Love Gerry